What do you see first in the following letters: (there are 2 answers)

IAMNOWHERE

one answer is: I AM NOWHERE

another answer is: I AM NOW HERE

Gives new meaning to finding the positive in your world, doesn’t it? Things are not always what they first appear to be. When we haven’t felt successful with a particular endeavor, most times that feeling of failure tends to spill over into other pieces of our lives robbing us of joy and accomplishment.

From that time when we were in grade school, studied so hard we thought we would ace the test only to barely receive a passing grade…To wishing we were better at softball so the team captain would choose us first. Each time we didn’t reach a level of achievement that would be universally considered very adept we unconsciously taught ourselves to gradually feel “less than” and then even “less than that”. This eventually led to clouding our perception of the things that we did well and could have excelled in. We missed out on the fulfilling “filled up” feeling that comes with doing our best and being rewarded for it, whether that reward came as a good grade, a pat on the back, a cheer from a crowd or simply “knowing” inside that you were at the top.

People so often use the term self-esteem. Rarely do we really know what that means. The dictionary says:

self-es·teem

–noun

/ˈsɛlfɪˈstim, ˌsɛlf-/ Show Spelled[self-i-steem, self-]

1.a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.

But what does it really mean to us? What does it take to develop self-esteem? Is it selfish to have a lot of self-esteem? Can you build self-esteem when you focus on the things that you cannot do as well as others or as well as you would like to? Of course not.

The way to feel “self-caring and self-loving” is to accrue good experiences and learn to recognize what you really have accomplished at the end of a day. At first seeing or even finding the level of accomplishment in what we do is, for most of us, a very hard thing to do. Some of us were taught early in our lives that to “boast” about yourself was not a kind thing to do. It was drummed into us that we would sound or appear conceited as if it were a bad thing to notice how well we performed at a particular task or mission. The truth is that all of us have weaknesses and strengths. If, when growing up and forming our sense of self, our natural talents and interests were nourished and encouraged we would more easily be able to focus on our strong points and begin on a road of strength.

As adults, we owe it to ourselves to take a good look at our level of “self-esteem”. Are we shaping our lives in such a way that we are utilizing our strengths? Are we building on that and becoming “more”? Just as you can see your ability to add a little more weight each time you work out, walk a little bit further than the day before, building self esteem and self worth is a process. The more you fill yourself up with accomplishments and feel the great feelings that come along with that you will be much more inclined to treat yourself with dignity and respect. When you treat yourself as if you are your best friend you will not feel deprived of what you thing you shouldn’t have or shouldn’t eat for that matter. You will know what makes you feel your best and perform your best and will not ever settle for less anymore. Think of the self-esteem test when you are feeling low and not accomplished or driven. It is your choice to see the positive even when it might be hiding behind the corner.

…the motivator lady
lori ellen
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