Wag your own tail!
Unconditional love.
What a concept.
Think of the warm, loving, happy feeling you get every time your pet sees you after being gone if even for a few minutes.
That tail wags and wags and wags with such excitement.
Right?
Your furry child doesn’t care if you are old, young, fat, thin, sick, depressed, afraid, content, hungry or even if your teeth have been brushed yet.
That is Unconditional Love.
Do you give yourself that same treatment?
Does your self talk remember that you are a wonderful, amazing person no matter what you are feeling or look like at any given moment?
I know most of us treat our friends with much more grace and respect than we do ourselves.
Would you ever tell a friend that you wouldn’t support them when they needed it?
Of course not.
We reserve the negative feelings and actions for ourselves.
Why?
We are the ones that will be with ourselves truly through the good as well as the hard times.
When all of the doors are closed, who is always there…we are.
Think of your pets when you are doubting yourself…
when you need that “shot in the arm” of courage, trust, and praise.
You deserve to give yourself the best…the best food…the best encouragement…the best love…
Wag your own tail!

…the motivator lady
lori ellen
eating behaviorist
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What do you see first in the following letters: (there are 2 answers)

IAMNOWHERE

one answer is: I AM NOWHERE

another answer is: I AM NOW HERE

Gives new meaning to finding the positive in your world, doesn’t it? Things are not always what they first appear to be. When we haven’t felt successful with a particular endeavor, most times that feeling of failure tends to spill over into other pieces of our lives robbing us of joy and accomplishment.

From that time when we were in grade school, studied so hard we thought we would ace the test only to barely receive a passing grade…To wishing we were better at softball so the team captain would choose us first. Each time we didn’t reach a level of achievement that would be universally considered very adept we unconsciously taught ourselves to gradually feel “less than” and then even “less than that”. This eventually led to clouding our perception of the things that we did well and could have excelled in. We missed out on the fulfilling “filled up” feeling that comes with doing our best and being rewarded for it, whether that reward came as a good grade, a pat on the back, a cheer from a crowd or simply “knowing” inside that you were at the top.

People so often use the term self-esteem. Rarely do we really know what that means. The dictionary says:

self-es·teem

–noun

/ˈsɛlfɪˈstim, ˌsɛlf-/ Show Spelled[self-i-steem, self-]

1.a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.

But what does it really mean to us? What does it take to develop self-esteem? Is it selfish to have a lot of self-esteem? Can you build self-esteem when you focus on the things that you cannot do as well as others or as well as you would like to? Of course not.

The way to feel “self-caring and self-loving” is to accrue good experiences and learn to recognize what you really have accomplished at the end of a day. At first seeing or even finding the level of accomplishment in what we do is, for most of us, a very hard thing to do. Some of us were taught early in our lives that to “boast” about yourself was not a kind thing to do. It was drummed into us that we would sound or appear conceited as if it were a bad thing to notice how well we performed at a particular task or mission. The truth is that all of us have weaknesses and strengths. If, when growing up and forming our sense of self, our natural talents and interests were nourished and encouraged we would more easily be able to focus on our strong points and begin on a road of strength.

As adults, we owe it to ourselves to take a good look at our level of “self-esteem”. Are we shaping our lives in such a way that we are utilizing our strengths? Are we building on that and becoming “more”? Just as you can see your ability to add a little more weight each time you work out, walk a little bit further than the day before, building self esteem and self worth is a process. The more you fill yourself up with accomplishments and feel the great feelings that come along with that you will be much more inclined to treat yourself with dignity and respect. When you treat yourself as if you are your best friend you will not feel deprived of what you thing you shouldn’t have or shouldn’t eat for that matter. You will know what makes you feel your best and perform your best and will not ever settle for less anymore. Think of the self-esteem test when you are feeling low and not accomplished or driven. It is your choice to see the positive even when it might be hiding behind the corner.

…the motivator lady
lori ellen
eating behaviorist
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As a child, you probably didn’t have many choices about the food that you ate. You were too young to drive to the store and purchase the food. You didn’t have an income. You weren’t allowed to cook. Some of us couldn’t even eat what we wanted or even when we were hungry. Many times we couldn’t eat how much we desired or ask for a larger or smaller portion. Sometimes your tastes were considered and other times you were forced to eat what was placed in front of you or wait until the next meal.

Pretty restrictive. Pretty dictating. What did this do to us? It taught us to ignore our natural ability to feed ourselves as the unique individuals that we are. We were always someone’s puppet. Our parents, our school cafeteria, our diet plan counselor.

Guess what? You no longer have to be anyone but yourself. Be kind to yourself. Nurture yourself. Smile and feel comfortable with yourself. Fulfill yourself. Give yourself what you really want. Learn to enjoy the satisfaction it will bring.

Now that you are learning the tools of Intuitive Eating, you can break free from those chains of control. You are in control. You are a grown up now. You can eat anything that you want!

…the motivator lady
lori ellen
eating behaviorist
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A group of thin people were asked: “Why do you eat”? Everyone in the group replied: “We eat because we are hungry”.

A group of overweight people were asked the same question. Their answers were long, tedious and riddled with guilt, stories and explanations; citing all kinds of reasons for their eating, none of which having anything to do with hunger.

How many times have you had around and around conversations in your head when the subject of eating comes up. A group of friends or family invite you to a movie. They tell you after the movie everyone will be going to their favorite pizza place. You immediately forgo the thought of the movie and go straight into conversations and rationalizations in your head. “Ok, I’ve been good for most of the week, so I can have a couple pieces of the pizza…No maybe I’ll just have one piece and order a salad so I can fill up on that first…Well, if I take off the pepperoni I’ll be okay…Maybe I’ll just eat 1/2 a piece…” and on and on and on.

Do you know what a naturally thin intuitive eater thinks about when faced with the prospect of movie and a pizza dinner? “Yum, pizza”!

How can they do this? How can they eat without all of those emotions attached to every bite?

Simple. (well, simple concept but one that takes a lot of practice and determination and trust). An Intuitive Eater is tuned into the signals their body is sending. They trust that they will make the right choices and satisfy their cravings and desires. If they are in the mood for something salty, crunchy, cold, hot, spicy or whatever…they will indulge in only the best of what they want. Thus allowing them to be satisfied with “just enough”. Infants are born with an innate ability to follow their own signals of hunger, taste and satiety. They will only eat what they love; only when they are truly hungry for that food; and definitely stop when they are not hungry anymore! If you attempt to feel a baby after they are no longer hungry, they will spit out what is being offered, even if they love that particular food.

We are all born with this ability. We unlearn it when we are young. Just because it is noon doesn’t necessarily mean that we are hungry for a meal. No outside source can dictate when and what we should be eating.

Honor yourself and trust that you will re-learn to listen to the signals that are inside you all day, every day.

You will enjoy your food so much more.
No more guilt.
No more self-sabotage.
Just a joyful, fulfilling eating experience.
“Try it…you’ll like it”!
Yum.

…the motivator lady
lori ellen
eating behaviorist
motivation.inspiration.strategies.support

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© 2014 intuitive.eating.4.ever . all rights reserved

A group of thin people were asked: “Why do you eat”? Everyone in the group replied: “We eat because we are hungry”.

A group of overweight people were asked the same question. Their answers were long, tedious and riddled with guilt, stories and explanations; citing all kinds of reasons for their eating, none of which having anything to do with hunger.

How many times have you had around and around conversations in your head when the subject of eating comes up. A group of friends or family invite you to a movie. They tell you after the movie everyone will be going to their favorite pizza place. You immediately forgo the thought of the movie and go straight into conversations and rationalizations in your head. “Ok, I’ve been good for most of the week, so I can have a couple pieces of the pizza…No maybe I’ll just have one piece and order a salad so I can fill up on that first…Well, if I take off the pepperoni I’ll be okay…Maybe I’ll just eat 1/2 a piece…” and on and on and on.

Do you know what a naturally thin intuitive eater thinks about when faced with the prospect of movie and a pizza dinner? “Yum, pizza”!

How can they do this? How can they eat without all of those emotions attached to every bite?

Simple. (well, simple concept but one that takes a lot of practice and determination and trust). An Intuitive Eater is tuned into the signals their body is sending. They trust that they will make the right choices and satisfy their cravings and desires. If they are in the mood for something salty, crunchy, cold, hot, spicy or whatever…they will indulge in only the best of what they want. Thus allowing them to be satisfied with “just enough”. Infants are born with an innate ability to follow their own signals of hunger, taste and satiety. They will only eat what they love; only when they are truly hungry for that food; and definitely stop when they are not hungry anymore! If you attempt to feel a baby after they are no longer hungry, they will spit out what is being offered, even if they love that particular food.

We are all born with this ability. We unlearn it when we are young. Just because it is noon doesn’t necessarily mean that we are hungry for a meal. No outside source can dictate when and what we should be eating.

Honor yourself and trust that you will re-learn to listen to the signals that are inside you all day, every day.

You will enjoy your food so much more.
No more guilt.
No more self-sabotage.
Just a joyful, fulfilling eating experience.
“Try it…you’ll like it”!
Yum.

…the motivator lady
lori ellen
eating behaviorist
motivation.inspiration.strategies.support

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